How to Get Motivated to Cam When You're Not in the Mood: Birth Control, Low Libido & Strategies That Actually Work
You need to get online. Bills are due. You know you'll make good money once you start. But the thought of clicking 'Go Live' makes your stomach sink.
Your libido is nonexistent. Birth control killed it months ago. Or maybe it's stress. Depression. Exhaustion. Whatever the cause, the result is the same—you cannot make yourself want to perform sexually when you feel zero desire.
A December 10, 2025 Reddit post from r/CamGirlProblems captured this struggle perfectly. The creator wrote: "I'm on BC and I have literally despised men since I've been on it 🫠 so, some days I can't get in the mood to work because I just don't have a desire to deal with men."
Within hours, the post got 7 upvotes and 20 engaged comments. Veteran models shared what actually works when motivation is nonexistent. Not fluffy advice about bubble baths and sexy playlists. Real strategies from creators who force themselves online despite feeling nothing.
The Truth Nobody Tells You: Being Horny Is NOT Part of the Job
The biggest reframe that helps models push through zero-libido days came from a 10-year veteran: "money is my biggest motivator and i just fake it til i make it. i'm rarely, if ever, 'in the mood' when i log on. i'm not getting on to take care of my sexual needs, i'm getting on to pay my bills."
This comment received 12 upvotes from other experienced models. Why? It challenges the fundamental misconception that kills motivation for new creators.
You think you need to be turned on to do this work. You don't.
Another veteran with a decade of experience added: "i have NEVER in 10 years of caming been horny when i log online. i have a low sex drive but i am an OSCAR worthy cum faker. do it all day every day. guys buy it EVERY TIME!"
Being genuinely aroused when you start your stream? That's not the standard. It's the exception. The expectation that you should "feel like it" before logging on is what's creating your motivation block.
One experienced model summed it up: "I just get on and do it anyway even if I'm not in the mood for it. I find most of the time, I get into it by being online."
18 upvotes on that comment. The "just do it" approach isn't toxic hustle culture when it comes with the understanding that your feelings will follow your actions. Not the other way around.
The Birth Control Problem: When Medication Kills Your Work Motivation
Let's address the elephant in the room. Birth control can devastate libido. For some models, it creates an active aversion to men and sexual interaction. That makes camming feel impossible on a visceral level.
The original poster's struggle is real: being on hormonal birth control that makes you "despise men" while trying to do work that requires you to engage with them sexually creates cognitive dissonance that's exhausting.
What helps:
- Talk to your doctor about switching birth control methods. Some models report that IUDs or other non-hormonal methods don't kill libido the same way oral contraceptives do.
- Separate your work persona from your personal feelings. One model shared: "I use a 'soft girl' lifestyle online and it's been spilling over to my life in the most beautiful of ways." Creating a cam persona helps you access different emotional states.
- Accept that performance isn't personal arousal. You're providing a service. Actors aren't actually in love when they film romantic scenes. You're not actually horny when you perform arousal. That's the skill.
One model dealing with medication side effects shared her approach: "Me asf rn currently taking a hot shower to help me get tf up and ready to get on live. I don't want to do it today but I'm gonna hop on I might even lay down this time I'm on live cause I'm so fucking tired just thinking about getting on."
This got validation from another veteran: "Lay down, be chilled. Low effort wins over no effort."
Low-effort streaming is better than not streaming at all. That's the survival mindset that keeps income consistent when your body is working against you.
The Pre-Stream Rituals That Actually Get You Online
What works when you can't force arousal? Physical and mental preparation that creates a state shift.
The Hot Shower Transition
Multiple models mentioned this: "I take a hot shower and then masturbate a little, just for my own pleasure. I go in feeling refreshed and full of energy after a real orgasm."
Another model warned: "50/50 shot because the post-orgasm bliss can make you fall asleep instead." Know yourself. This ritual either energizes you or knocks you out.
The Financial Visual Reminder
A 10-year veteran shared her exact system: "i get online and look at crazy expensive shit i want to buy then bring it down to something that is still expensive but i could afford by saving for it...print it out, put next to the laptop and log in! it's called MOTIVIATION!"
Concrete financial goals work better than vague feelings. Print out the thing you're saving for. Look at it before every session. Connect the work directly to the reward.
Another model uses a similar approach: "The only thing that motivates me is coffee and my pay periods token goal and how far away I am from what I need!!!"
Specific numbers. Measurable targets. "I need $X more to hit my goal" beats "I should probably work today."
The 'Watch Your Own Content' Trick
One creator mentioned: "Watch my own content or content my partner has sent me to help get in the mood before streaming."
Seeing yourself in your best moments can remind you what you're capable of creating. Watching content that turned you on in the past can kickstart arousal even when you're starting from zero.
When Low-Effort Shows Are Your Best Business Strategy
Here's the part that challenges conventional camming advice: sometimes your best business decision is logging on for a deliberately low-effort show.
Veteran model Layla_UK validated the approach when another creator said she was going to lie down during her stream: "Lay down, be chilled. Low effort wins over no effort."
What low-effort streaming looks like:
- Position yourself lying down or sitting casually
- Talk about your day, current events, anything non-sexual
- Stay clothed or wear comfortable clothes
- Make it clear you're having a chill, conversation-focused session
- Let privates happen if they happen, but don't push for them
This connects to something models have discovered: personality-driven streams often make more money than explicit sexual performance. When you're not in the mood for sexual content, you can default to the approach that's actually more profitable anyway.
The risk of low-effort shows? They might not hit your normal earnings. The bigger risk? Not streaming at all. Zero earnings. No schedule consistency. Your regulars don't know when to find you.
Physical Hacks When Your Body Won't Cooperate
Some models reported physical strategies that help when mental motivation fails:
Coffee as Pre-Show Ritual
Not glamorous, but effective: "coffee" was mentioned as a simple energy booster before streaming. Caffeine creates alertness and energy even when arousal is absent.
Self-Pleasure Before Streaming (With Caveats)
One model swears by this: "I take a hot shower and then masturbate a little, just for my own pleasure. I go in feeling refreshed and full of energy after a real orgasm."
Another warned it backfires for her: the post-orgasm relaxation makes her fall asleep instead of energizing her for work.
Know your body. Test it. Some models report genuine arousal from personal pleasure helps them access that energy for streaming. Others find it completely counterproductive.
Watch Content That Turns YOU On
"Watch my own content or content my partner has sent me" was mentioned as a pre-stream ritual. This works because you're reminding your brain what arousal feels like. You're not starting from complete zero.
The Mindset Reframe That Changes Everything
The most powerful shift isn't physical. It's mental.
Stop asking "Do I feel like camming?"
Start asking "Do I need to pay bills?"
The veteran model who said she's "rarely, if ever, 'in the mood'" isn't suffering through miserable work. She's reframed the entire premise. She's not getting on camera to satisfy her sexual needs. She's getting on camera to make money. Sexual performance is the method, not the motivation.
Another model explained it this way: "I find most of the time, I get into it by being online."
This is the secret experienced models understand: motivation follows action more often than action follows motivation. You don't wait to feel like it. You start, and the feeling comes.
When the Strategies Don't Work: Recognizing Real Burnout
There's a difference between not feeling like it today and genuine burnout that money can't fix.
You've tried the strategies in this post. You still can't make yourself get online for weeks at a time? That's different. That's not a motivation issue. That's burnout or depression that requires professional support.
Signs this is bigger than daily motivation:
- You can't get online for weeks despite financial consequences
- The thought of streaming triggers panic or dread, not just reluctance
- You're experiencing other depression symptoms (sleep changes, appetite changes, loss of interest in things you used to enjoy)
- Birth control or other medication is affecting your mental health beyond just libido
If you recognize these patterns, motivation hacks won't solve it. You need medical or therapeutic intervention. That's not weakness. That's recognizing when the problem is bigger than willpower can address.
The Bottom Line: You Don't Need to Be Horny, But You Do Need to Show Up
The 10-year veterans aren't getting online because they're turned on. They're getting online because bills are due. They've accepted that personal arousal and work performance are separate things.
Birth control killing your libido? That's real. It makes this work harder. It doesn't make it impossible. The models who succeed despite medication side effects have stopped expecting to "feel like it" and started treating streaming like any other job. You clock in. You do the work. You clock out.
The strategies that actually work:
- Just get online anyway—arousal often follows once you start
- Reframe the work as bill-paying, not personal satisfaction
- Do low-effort conversational streams when you can't manage high-energy shows
- Use concrete financial goals and visual reminders instead of waiting for "motivation"
- Accept that you'll fake arousal—that's the actual skill you're developing
The models who've been doing this for 10+ years and still making good money? They were never horny when they logged on. They learned to perform arousal they don't feel. They built business discipline that doesn't depend on their emotional or physical state.
That's the real secret. Not motivation. Discipline. The ability to show up when you don't feel like it. And on the days when even discipline fails, recognizing when you need help beyond Reddit advice.
